This project is inactive
I'm no longer doing research, writing or media interviews about Love Not Anger. Here's why.
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May 16, 2020
For counsellors supporting inexperienced clients
For therapists and counsellors: a list of challenges your clients may need your help with, to overcome their dating difficulties.
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May 15, 2020
Caring for an angry friend
A reader lives with a man who won't let go of anger at his ex-wife and other women. How to cope, set boundaries and protect other people from the anger?
October 27, 2019
Is dating easier or harder for queers?
LGBTQ+ people might have more freedom to be ourselves on the dating scene. But starting to date can be harder because we often start in adulthood (after the confusion of coming out), and we experience more discrimination, trauma, violence and mental illness. And yet, many queer and trans people find love while living true to ourselves.
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October 26, 2019
My history with involuntary celibacy
How Alana started the Involuntary Celibacy website and forum in 1997, and why she drifted away. How she responded to the incel murders in 2014 and 2018 by speaking out in the media and starting the Love Not Anger project.
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October 8, 2019
The word “incel”
The term "involuntary celibacy" was meant to be neutral, but cannot be reclaimed from misogyny. Let's focus on reducing loneliness and preventing violence, not defining terminology.
October 7, 2019
What causes incel anger?
Being lonely doesn't cause violence. It is the combination of loneliness with sexism and entitlement that has led some incel men to anger and murder. The internet can be used to spread hate, or love!
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October 6, 2019
Services you could develop
If you're savvy about mental health, you could organize a service for inexperienced and shy people: groups where people meet, prevention programs for youth, advice resources, assessment tools, matching services, and all kinds of counselling & therapy.
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October 6, 2019
Concerned about a single person?
There are different strategies for supporting a single person who might be lonely, depressed or angry. Links to suggestions for talking to friends, family members, community members, employees, students and other team members.
October 5, 2019
How religious and community leaders can support single people
Religious, ethnic and family community group leaders can support young single people to find partnership. Some tips for offering mentorship, referring to counselling, and bowing out when you can't accept someone's values or lifestyle.
October 5, 2019
Concerned about a single person on your team?
For managers, supervisors, teachers, professors, coaches and volunteer coordinators: How to talk to your employee, student or team member who is single and may be lonely. Handling inappropriate dating requests or anger from team members.
October 5, 2019
My adult child is still single, what do I do?!
How to support a single family member to be socially connected, while relaxing your expectations of them.
October 4, 2019
How to talk to your friend who’s always single
Suggestions for a non-judgmental conversation to support your friend who has been single for years. Sharing vulnerability, boosting their confidence, encouraging them to make connections and find help, and setting boundaries.
October 4, 2019
